Not so Vanilla Sex Questions with Vanilla DeVille

Not so Vanilla Sex Questions with Vanilla DeVille

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By Olive Day on August 31, 2011
I tend to get played by girls. Things will go well and all, then we never make it to the bed room. They either stop talking to me or they'll start looking at me as a friend. What am I doing wrong?
Vanilla
Maybe you’re being too nice. Many of my girlfriends prefer a bit of that “badboy” attitude in their men. Sure, they like it when a nice guy takes them to dinner, but when it comes down to sex, they have little interest in super-sweet men. However, when a mysterious guy picks them up at a bar and pretty much lets them know they want sex, they always get lucky that night. Now, not all women are looking for this, and I definitely don’t think you should go out and be an asshole just to get laid, but try being a bit more assertive. Throw a few hints to her sooner than later, and see how she reacts. If she shows no interest, move on...
I go down on my girlfriend a lot. But whenever we start to have sex she feels uncomfortable and eventually we have to stop. I’m the first guys she has ever had sex with before – so please help.
Vanilla
Is she uncomfortable physically or emotionally? Being that you’re her first, she could be scared and embarrassed about sex... Or maybe you’re just a little too big for her virginal honey pot. First, I encourage you to talk to her about sex. Find out what she likes and doesn’t like... it could be something simple that she’s afraid to mention to you. Second, I would suggest trying a complete 180 in the bedroom: Let her do all the “driving”. She gets to choose the foreplay and the positions, as well as she’ll be in control of every thrust. You stay still and let her do all the work. Not only do you get to be a “pillow princess” for a while, but she’ll be able to move around and discover what really feels good to her. Before you know it, she’ll be your little sex demon! ;)
Does everyone in porn look as good in person as they do on camera? Both males and females...
Vanilla
We’ve all seen Hollywood actors and celebrities that look amazing on camera, but you end up being a little surprised when you see them in person (whether it’s a positive or negative difference). The same thing goes for performers in the adult world. While I know a lot of gorgeous men and women in the industry, I’ve met a few porn peeps that I didn’t even recognize in person because they looked so different from their movies or photos. Some people aren’t naturally photogenic and look much better in person, while others know how to hide their flaws on camera. Plus, just like Hollywood, many adult productions use professional make-up artists, fancy lights and camera filters. The bottom line is adult stars are real people, and you should love your favorite performers, imperfections and all.

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